Have you ever changed your mind and wanted something different? Of course, you have. At some point in your life, you decided to do something differently, even if it was a simple as ordering tacos versus a burger. Yes, tacos versus a burger isn’t a super stressful decision (but it can feel like it at the time if you’re hangry) in comparisons to deciding whether to make a major life change such as leaving or starting a new job or choosing to move to a new state. The decision to make a major life change requires some time and reflection before acting. Taking time to weight the pros and cons is wise and helps us to prepare as best as we can for the changes we’ll experience. If you have been contemplating whether to do something different in your life, ask yourself these questions:
Why do I want to do ________?
How will doing ________ make me feel happier or more satisfied with my life?
Who will support me when I decide to do ___________?
Do I really want ______ or am I doing it to make someone else happy?
What am I seriously willing to do to make _______ a reality?
On a scale of 1 (lowest) to 10(highest) how committed am to ___________?
These are all good questions to ask yourself so that you can figure out what your motivation is for wanting to do something different. When we take the time to understand our motivation(s) for making changes, we can become clearer and more at peace about our choice to do something different. Remember, it’s okay to change your mind after taking some time to decide what you want to do. The choice is yours.
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Happy New Year! I hope your 2019 is often to wonderful start. If you’re like most people you’re probably saying to yourself, “it’s a new year which means it’s time for a new me”. Yes, it is a new year, but something to remember is that we can take steps to change our lives any day of the year. If you happened to have created a new year resolution and started it on the first but have fallen off, don’t worry tomorrow is a new day and you can pick up where you left off. As you’re making changes, try not to be too hard on yourself and remember that change is not linear and is a process. Plan for setbacks because they will happen. Also remember that if you experience a setback, there will be an opportunity for a comeback and to start again.
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Christina is a Psychotherapist in private practice in Oakland California.